When it comes to going out with someone for the first time, maybe after some chitchat on social media, you guys decide to meet. And of all places to meet and hang out, you chose the cinema. Personally, I don’t think the cinema is an ideal place for a first date. I mean, first dates are really important as it lets you get to know a potential lover way better than what you knew online. It is the date that allows you decide whether you want to go for a second one. But the question is, how do you get…
Author: Sarafina Ann Nneoha
These past few days, I have really been drowning in an ocean of worry. Service has ended and I am officially unemployed. And my career path which is filmmaking is not a rosy one. It takes years and years of striving to make it or so I heard. It is not a career that a newbie starts making money from. So, how do I pursue this career, give it my all without hunger tormenting me? How do I achieve these goals I have for myself? Each day when I wake up in the morning, I am always depressed. I am…
There have been a lot of terrible misconceptions about “Feminism” especially in Nigeria. Whenever a Nigerian lady opens her mouth to admit that she is a feminist, the first thing that comes to our mind is that she is an angry and isolated woman who “hates” men. First, I wouldn’t blame those who think that way because here in Nigeria, most women don’t really understand the true meaning of being a “feminist”. Most of them think feminism is all about oppressing men, being unmarried because they don’t need a man in their life. There was a post I saw on…
As a child, if there was one thing I was eager to achieve, it was to “grow up”. I looked up at adults and couldn’t wait to become one. You know, be able to stay out late, eat what I want, live alone; go wherever I wanted to go without my parents watching over me like a hawk. Those days, I hated the fact that I can’t hang out with my friends without my dad calling at intervals to know where I am and when I would be coming back home. I was tired of the constant nagging, the curfews,…
There was this guy I was dating months back. We were residing in the same city but it was always a big deal for us to see. I mean, if I didn’t call him and asked if we can hang out, he would never call. His excuse was, “I don’t know how to make plans”, or “I am busy with work”. And I would believe him hook, line and sinker. This continued till it got to a point where it became exhausting. I was always the one making plans, 80% of the time, I was the one calling. It was…
Here is to people with a large heart than the rest of us; to people who give their all when in love; who listen to the same long song every time because the lyrics mean a lot to them; who shed tears when watching romantic movies; who have been taken advantage of; whose heart have been trampled on because they loved too much and to people who feel lonely in their heart. First, let me make it clear to you; “You are not alone”. I know you long for love; every one of us does. We long for those perfect…
I came across a tweet the other day. It says; “We are all eager to reach our goals. There is just something inside us that makes us impatient and whatever it is that we want, we want it right away. But, you also need to realize that things just don’t work that way. And the best you can do is enjoy the process and focus less on the end result”. When I read that tweet, it actually got me thinking – these days, a lot of us, young people are depressed because it’s frustrating climbing the ladder of success. We…
The priest’s deep voice rang out through the February chill. “Merciful God, you know the anguish of the sorrowful… ” Sorrowful? Joyce thought loudly. To see that beast in human form dead and buried? She sneered. All she felt was a relief as though she had been bounded in chains and finally there was a breakthrough and freedom joyfully welcoming her with open arms. “You are attentive to the prayers of the faithful. Lord, hear your people who cry out to you in their need… ” Joyce glanced around the small group of family and friends who had come to…
Growing up, we had so many ideas of what sex was all about. In fact, before I started having sex, I always had this notion that “Sex was going to be one magical event that will make my body vibrate”. The night I finally allowed a penis inside my vagina, it was just – there. I didn’t feel all the butterflies I thought I would feel; the pleasure wasn’t there. in fact, after that night, I came to the conclusion that “sex was overhyped”. Seriously, when it comes to sex, I think there are plenty false notions about what constitutes…
So, I was strolling online days back and I came across a post by our popular relationship adviser, Joro Olumofin. This time around, Joro advised men to give their partners good sex about 12 to 15 times in a week. According to him, most men have been failing in their duties and this has affected the smooth-running of their homes. In his words, “Men it is your duty to give your wife or girlfriend sex 12-15 times a week, every GIVEN week. A lot of women are suffering in silence in their relationships because of SEXUAL MALNOURISHMENT, lugubriously when a…
Dear period, You visited for the first time when I was 15. I welcomed you with open arms. I was excited to have you in my life. Before you came, I couldn’t wait to be like my peers; I couldn’t wait to start using tampons and pads. Having you in my life meant I was now a full-fledged woman, “a grown-up”. But over the years, our relationship had really turned sour. I am literally tired of you. You visit me whenever you feel like each month and expect me to just accept you. You don’t even care that I have…
In the pursuit of my dreams and passion, there are times I get so discouraged. Life comes with these disappointments and failures that all I want to do is throw in the towel. There are days I get so carried away with how little I have achieved and how fast time is flying. I get so depressed and question myself. I ask myself if this dream is worth the stress and pains. It took me a while to understand the reason why it seems as though most of us are sad and depressed is because we are all focused on…
When I was setting up my blog, I had a whole lot of ideas swimming in my head. They were so many that all I could think about was set up a blog; a personal blog and WRITE; have a whole lot of subscribers and all but brethren, little did I know that I will be stuck one day. As in, so stuck that for months I wouldn’t be able to make a post. I kept waiting for that motivation which never came. And because of that, I kinda assumed that maybe I wasn’t meant to be a “blogger”. To…
There is no doubt that sleep is so incredibly important to our health for many reasons. In fact, most times when I am working and it gets to a point when I my output reduce drastically, I try to sleep; because that’s what my brain needs at that point. So, I shut down everything. Funny thing is, when I wake up I am all boxed up with energy to start working. Actually, a time came when I started finding it difficult to sleep. I don’t know why but all I knew was, I can literally function for almost 23 hours…
I have always been a fan of anklets and waist beads even though I don’t wear them. Each time, I make a mental note to get one when I go out, but I end up not buying it perhaps due to money issues. But just recently, if finally got myself an anklet; I wore it and it looked beautiful. One of my male friends saw me on it and the first thing he said when he saw me was, “Ann, when did you become a call girl?” I was like, “What do you mean by that?” “See what you are…
So, popular Media Personality, Toke Makinwa took to her social media handle and served some relationship advice which centered on her ‘crazy side because she is a scorpio’. The media personality described herself as someone who will pick up a fight with her man for no reason. She however added that she takes off the heat by sending a raunchy photo, which according to her works the whole time. Toke ended up telling ladies to try it out some time because life is boring. Seriously, the advice got me thinking really hard. Like why would you suddenly pick up a fight…
Hi lovelies, it’s Saturday and as usual, I have a racy question for the ladies in the house. Have you ever been in a relationship with a stingy guy? If yes, what was the experience like? Popular media personality, Toke Makinwa recently shared a video on her Instagram advising ladies to stay away from stingy men. According to her, “Dating a stingy guy is like a disease, stay away from them”. I have never dealt with stingy guys before. I mean, all my boyfriends have always been free in giving. But Toke’s video reminded me of a friend of mine…
In life there are times when no matter how much we try; how much energy we put in to achieve our dreams or make success out of ourselves, we feel the universe is working against us. It seems like the goal we are trying to reach is pushing further away from us. This feeling most times sprouts the feeling of hopelessness that could get us depressed. Below are some of the ways to handle such feeling; See every moment as an opportunity to start fresh The thing is, ever moment and every day is an opportunity for you to start…
Hey lovelies, The weekend is finally here, so let’s shake things up a little! I have a racy question for y’all. But this is particularly for the ladies. What will you do if you find out that your partner cheated on you? Would that be the end of the relationship or would you forgive and move on? Personally, I don’t think I can stay back with a partner who cheats on me. I am a very imaginative person, so the moment I hear or find your that my husband cheated on me, I wouldn’t stop replaying the possible scenario in…
Do you have dreams and goals that you hope to achieve? Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you share your dreams with some friends and they just wave it off like it doesn’t matter or give you that, “Are you crazy?” kinda look? How did you feel knowing that everyone thinks your dreams and goals are shitty? Did it weigh you down? Did you give up on those dreams or did you keep pushing not minding the negative comments? Well, first off, I am going to tell you this. Don’t feel bad if your friends and family…
So recently, popular Nigerian singer and songwriter, Davido dished out an advice to his followers. He advised them not to allow the pressure on social media gets to them. In his words, “Don’t be fooled by what you see … you’re doing so much better than u think”. Honestly, this tweet hit me hard. It was though as if he was talking to me. I mean, I have always been the kind of person that the moment I log in to Instagram, I get depressed instantly. I don’t know why but I just switch from my happy mood to a…
Recently, Nollywood actress, Kate Henshaw, took to social media to dish out some powerful advice to her fans and followers on learning to accept oneself in order to grow. The veteran actress posted a stunning photo of herself with the caption; “Expectations of self should always be more than those of others…speak your truth and own it…Human beings are fickle…Know who you are and be more content or stive to be and do more…Not everyone will love you and that’s okay because you are not for everyone. Have an amazing day my lovelies. Live Love. Laugh”. That caption totally knocked…
I was roaming the streets of twitter yesterday night and I came across a funny tweet. It says, “Apart from soul mate, biko try and marry your libido-mate. If you are the kinda person that loves foreplay, find your match. If you are the kinda person that loves it slow, find your match too. Don’t harass somebody’s son or daughter with your oliver twist libido”. Lol. When I saw this tweet, I just laughed. It was a funny one but still, I couldn’t help but agree with whoever tweeted that. Seriously, the reason why most relationships or marriages go south…
Some months back, while I was roaming the streets of Facebook, a message came in. Usually, the first thing I do when I receive a message from a new guy, I check out his profile and his pictures. The level of his cuteness and smartness will determine how I will respond. So immediately the guy messaged me, I dashed off to his timeline. His pictures were okay; it was more like he was into the corporate world, I could tell from his dressing. From his posts, he appeared smart as long as he wasn’t copying someone else’s posts. Concluding that…
Has there ever being a period in your relationship where it feels as though things are going down the hill? Like you both know that the relationship is not working out but none of you want to come straight up and break up. The truth is that so many people remain in unhealthy relationships because they are too reluctant to take the step to breakup with their partners. I have been in this shoes and I can categorically say that it wasn’t fun at all. Like, you know you are tired of the relationship but you are scared to walk…
Hey lovelies, The weekend is finally here, so let’s shake things up a little! I have a racy question for y’all. Can you handle a long distance relationship? Most times, it’s not as though we sit down and tell ourselves that we are going to go into a long distance relationship. Sometimes, we enter a long distance relationship because of circumstances. In my own case, I was in a long distance relationship because I went for law school and for one year, I only spoke with my boyfriend over the phone. But seriously, long distance relationship is hard work. I…
Dear future husband; I don’t know what you look like but I’d like to imagine that you are a tall, handsome dude with beards to die for. Ermmm…okay, I am really blushing and grinning real hard at the thought of us spending the rest of our lives together. I know it may not sound logical but you have been on my mind lately. When I think about my future with you, my stomach fills with all the good types of butterflies. I really can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with you but before we walk down the…
Popular relationship expert, Joro Olumofin recently dished out advice to ladies on his Instgram page. According to him, any woman who cannot boast of a million Naira in asset on in her bank account should not even think about getting married. He said most women are more focused on getting a husband rather than focusing on building their empire to sustain them later in the future. Below is his full post; “Dear Ladies, if you don’t have up to N1,000,000 / $2000 in assets or in your account you shouldn’t be thinking about marriage. This is for your own good.…
Trust is one of the strongest elements that hold a relationship. When your partner cheats on you, it shatters that glass of trust and it is not always easy to get it fixed no matter how guilty and remorseful they feel. My boyfriend once cheated on me. You know that feeling when you are in bed all cuddled up with your supposed lover and his phone buzzes; he excuses himself to go answer the call. My curiosity got the best of me and I quietly followed him to the sitting room where he picked the call. Listening to him make…
Lately, I have actually been dropping some of my mean behaviors. Not that I am totally nice now anyway but I have been making conscious effort to be nice to people; not just my friends but total strangers. Months back, I don’t think I actually gave a fuck about people’s feelings. You tell me how bad my words or actions made you feel and I’d simply roll my eye and kiss my teeth. Like, do I look like I care? Yeah, I think it was one of my major flaws. I actually have no idea what pushed me to start…
