Who should I choose?

Dear Auntie Dora,

I can no longer keep this to myself because age is now telling on me. I am a lady of 32years and yet to decide on who to marry. It was all rosy for me when I met Charles 5years older than me back in school; he showed me love and showered me with a lot of gifts, when I fall sick, he was also sick, he will feed me, bath me and pamper me to bed and will sit and watch me while I sleep. In fact he possesses all the qualities any women would ever wish in a man. We shared memorable moments together that I cannot forget in a hurry and I can swear he never cheated on me.

During this period, I was unfaithful to him pursuing shadows and at the end of every relationships I cried back to him and at all times, he was ready to receive me with an outstretched arms. I had a shoulder to cry on anytime I had heartbreaks, I was unfaithful but he still wants me and professed his undying love for me. We have dated for 10years now and my family members have accepted him

He has proposed marriage to me but he is not financially buoyant, I mean both of us are financially dependent on our parents and relations as a result of this,  I am afraid of what the future holds for us.

Now, the problem I am having is that a wealthy and handsome guy is asking for my hand in marriage and is ready to make me feel the pleasures of heaven on earth, it is so frustrating deciding whether to go for the rich guy, of which I am not sure if he is coming for love or deceit as I barely know him. I am really confused and don’t know what to do, I really need your prompt and candid advice, as the choice I make may be detrimental to the endless joy I wished for myself.

My Answer

agony-aunt 2

Dear xxxxx,  I am happy to read from you. Your situation is not uncommon. The issue of marriage should never be taken lightly. Marrying the wrong guy could ruin your life and destiny.

First things first, do you love him? If you love a guy, you won’t cheat on him. You need to think about it? A 10 years relationship shouldn’t be thrown away because money is not a major issue. If he is educated, hardworking and hustles well, money will come with time. You should find time to ask yourself, what you really want in a man, do you find peace around him?  If your 10 years relationship appeals to you, don’t leave him for a wealthy man. Wealth comes and goes but a good man that loves you unconditionally is hard to come by.

Like I said earlier, you need to be 100% sure, you love this guy and he suits your requirement for a life partner.  Life will be unbearable for any lady that spends the rest of her life with a man she barely loves.

Just ask: auntiedora12@yahoo.com



Recent Comments (9)

  1. Tola June 15, 2013 at 12:48 pm

    Na wao, women of nowadays follow men because of money. Chai, we when no get money wetin we go do? Babe, marry the guy of 10 years if u love am o.

  2. Osaro efosa June 15, 2013 at 12:50 pm

    Sometimes I pity guys that spend time investing on girls. My theory is “trust no woman”. If I am ready to marry I will go to the church. By the way, babe stick to the 10 years guy o. The devil you know is better than the angel you dont know.

  3. Sarah Enenche June 15, 2013 at 12:51 pm

    Lol, lol,lol,lol, I go follow money o

  4. Hannah osundu June 15, 2013 at 12:53 pm

    This kind of questions surprises me because the answers are obvious. follow your heart. I am not sure the lady in question loves the guy. She must be bored of him for her to cheat. Make up your mind and stop tormenting the poor guy.

  5. Lily chukwu June 15, 2013 at 12:54 pm

    Auntie Dora true talk. You have said it all

  6. Seun June 15, 2013 at 2:03 pm

    Not all that glitter is gold.forget about money and follow the man that has been with u for years,the devil u know is better than the angel you don’t knw.Money wil definatly Come.Trust God and be patient.

  7. Kosisom June 15, 2013 at 2:16 pm

    A richman can become a poorman 2morrow, take heed least u fall

  8. Franklin June 15, 2013 at 2:42 pm

    Dis is a matter of somebody u want to spend d rest of life wit, to me money is not all in life, cos some hav it bt dey re nt hapi in dere marriages, so my advise to u is to go for d person dat truly Luv and care for u so dat u will be hapi for d rest of life

  9. Bukola June 16, 2013 at 7:44 pm

    U need to learn to involve God in all u do,stop working with sight,enquire 4rm God that knows d end 4rm d beginning

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