When I first had a heart arrest over this issue early last month, I hastily shrugged it off because of the dying reading culture. Yes, the secondary school students who failed the 2024 JAMB are not the only ones who don’t read, most people today are not interested in reading what is buried within the pages of books.
Sometime last month, I was fraternizing on the X platform, formerly known as Twitter when I came across a heated argument on ‘whether it is okay to marry a lady who has more than 20 body count’. The usual me who is never interested in such discourse, tried to look away but I was prompted to hawk-eye some of the comments that ensued.
Among others, many people (obviously males) maintained that a lady who has more than 20 body count is a ‘whore,’ ‘hoe,’ and that she is ‘completely finished’ and any man that marries such a lady was only making do with the crumbs that fall from the table.
Some of the chauvinists, VERY BRUTAL in their comments, did not mince words when they averred that when you meet such ladies, you hit and pass. “They are not for keep, you swipe and pass on to the next person to also dig and pass”.
While perusing these mind-bugging comments, a litany of issues inundated my mind, leaving my eyes teary. Not only did I find some of the comments disdainfully nauseating, but also that we are shying from stark hypocrisy staring at us in the face. The first question is, who are the people giving these ladies the body count? I strongly believe that if you’re not sexually chaste, you have no moral right to decry others for body count.
I find it hypocritically repugnant that most of these guys who are skillfully luring people’s daughters to bed on a daily basis are still the ones who don’t want to ‘keep a lady’ who has more than 20 body count. Society trends have shown that the average young guy on the street is actively hunting pants to pull down every now and then. And after removing as many as he can, he hides under the guise of moral chastity to decry the same women he has ‘cleave their gardens and burn their bushes’ and wants to keep the one that doesn’t have any body count.
How does a guy who has been in active service, digging women he never married, go about condemning the same people and tagging them ‘whore, hoe,’ etc.! And then I ask, is body count exclusive to women? I ask because I haven’t seen people decrying men for having many body count.
The sad reality is that sex has become so trivialized that people no longer have reasons to have it – the most interesting part is that people no longer need to be in a relationship or marriage to knack. Once the opportunity presents itself, irrespective of who is involved, people remove boxers and pants and thrust waists like their lives depend on it.
From the trends, one can easily deduce that not too many people in their 20s and 30s don’t have up to 20 body count yet. Now and then, young people who hide under the guise of anonymous posts publicly admit how they have been actively ‘knacking’ different people. Sometimes, I wonder how some of you do it. Because even if you don’t care about the spiritual implications, what about the health implications? You meet someone you know nothing about their health condition or ancestral root and the next thing, you open legs or dive in! Pathetically TROUBLING!
And to the ladies, it is sad that some of you still don’t want to learn your lessons. Whether you like it or not, you will always be at the receiving end of this iberiberism and that is how society paints it, unfortunately. Not too many men in our society (even if they have been in active service with numerous women) will want to keep a lady with a community vagina. Every little thing, you have opened legs wa!
A friend asked if he should go ahead with his wedding, having found out that his fiancée has over 20 count! I told him that that was his decision to make. It is not in my place to tell anyone to or not to marry a partner who has over 20 body count.
My position has been that we should maintain sexual chastity – that is God’s command for us, His children. If everybody keeps themselves until marriage, the issue of body count would have been permanently solved.
Stanley Ugagbe is a Social Commentator and he is passionate about effecting change through writing.
He can be reached on stanleyakomeno@gmail.com
