7 Ways to Impress Parents of Your Spouse-to-be


Paisley Gilmour in collaboration with marriage counsellor, Sylvia Smith, provided 7 ways to make good impression on the family of your spouse-to-be. Enjoy.


  1. Get the family history

“Your partner’s told their family about you, so it’s only fair to even the playing field. Getting your bearings about who is who at the dinner table will help you feel more at ease. Have them give you the lowdown on what to expect from their family before walking in,” she says. Maybe ask your partner what the family vibe tends to be: loud or kind of reserved? Knowing this should “make you feel more comfortable when it comes to making conversation,” says Sylvia.

2. Be yourself

If you’re usually the life and soul of the party but end up being super quiet and only pipe up to say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’, their family are going to be left with a totally wrong impression of you. “Show them that you’re charming, engaging, and care about making a good impression by asking questions to fuel conversation,” Sylvia says. “Ask the parents where they grew up and how they met. These questions may seem generic, but they are great conversation starters that will help you get to know each other better.”

3. Don’t stress about your outfit

There’s no need to waste energy worrying about what to wear to meet the parents. As long as your outfit is event-appropriate (like, probably don’t go to a black tie dinner in short shorts) then use it to express who you are. It’s always best to dress like YOU and be fully comfortable.

4. Gauge the vibe

Everyone’s family is different. Some love to get right into political debates and talk about current affairs. Others might tend to stick to less potentially controversial topics like awesome TV shows. As there’s no hard and fast rule, just gauge the vibe and go with it. If they ask for your opinion on something, give it to them (respectfully of course).

5. Keep your phone off the table

“Turn your phone off. Texting while socialising may pass for good company among your close friends, but checking your phone when meeting the parents is a definite no-no,” Sylvia says. “All it says to your spouse’s family is that you don’t value their company. Nothing screams ‘Rude!’ louder than your phone ringing during dinner.”

6. Offer to help out

If you are really nervous, one of the best things you can do is offer to help out. It keeps you busy and shows you’re a nice person with good manners, right? “Offering to clean up at the end of the night also gives your partner’s family the chance to get to know you without them present. Be sincere about your offer to help out and just as respectful if the family declines your assistance,” Sylvia adds.

7. Don’t lie, obviously

“Treat your first meeting like a first date. Be yourself. Just remember to be the polite, engaging version of yourself without being fake,” she says. “You want your spouse’s parents to like you for you, not to the false person you’re pretending to be at dinner. Families can sense when someone is faking interest and may view your excessive compliments as insincere.”


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