As parents there is no examination to check if you have done well. Like there is no stipulated standard to weigh if any parent is doing.
Just like professionals are raised in different schools, parenting doesn’t have an examination that either the parents or children will take to assess progress.
Most parents do not have targets for what they will achieve or expect their children to have learnt say when they are four or Ten or fifteen years old.
Many people do what they feel is okay for years with no checks and balances till life begins to confirm that they have done either a good or bad job in the adult life of the individual they raised.
Funny enough, short sighted people in the society with loud voice have glorified the effect of environment on child upbringing while down playing how powerful family values are and the extent it can affect a child’s life.
Africans use to have a crude way to assess a child’s upbringing. When a Child used to be a child of all, before the world started the ‘mind your business’ campaign. Previously, everybody was a moral police. It was a community effort to examine each child’s behaviour as a routine. It was a life style.
We lost that structure.
We have lost a societal formular that worked for Africa. It may take 100’s of years to recover if we ever recover.
Written by Uche Nonso Azubuine
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